When holding grudges; it can lead to a destructive cycle in your life. So, often someone can hold a grudge for a lifetime. But, is this healthy? No doubt, this can lead to a destructive pattern in your everyday life.
Holding Grudges
In the first place, many individuals cannot get over something that has happened. However, there are ways to handle things more effectively. When someone truly cannot let something go; they are inflicting pain to themselves and others. In my opinion, it is always best to try to resolve a conflict. Although sometimes, this is impossible to do. When there is someone beyond unreasonable and effort has been made; some times it is best to move on from that situation.
In the same fashion, if someone has done something wrong to me and apologizes, I can accept this and move on. To move on from a bad situation; it is best to try to resolve conflict.
When you let something occupy so much space in your head; you’re generally causing harm to your well-being and others. Since so many individuals have a problem resolving conflict; I have found it best to let it go.
In essence, by holding onto a grudge, who does it benefit? Although you may be right about the situation; it is best to come to inner peace and begin to heal our heart.
Airing Grievances
No doubt, we have all faced issues where we want to air a grievance. However, there are some situations that call for this and others that may be best not to express. So, when is it right to air a grievance? Well, if you have someone who infringes on your personal space, privacy and impacts your life, than I say, speak your mind. But, if you’re in a delicate situation, such as in a work or family situation, it may be best to be quiet.
For instance, if you have a situation at work, it is usually best to approach this matter in writing with Management or Human Resources. If you have a delicate family situation, I find it best to try to arrange some quiet time to meet privately and air out your grievance.
Whenever there is a situation, I always believe it is best to air on the side of caution depending on the situation.
Conclusion
If you’re still holding grudges and cannot express yourself, than I say move on. In essence, the situation or relationship you’re trying to mend, may not be worth the effort.
As always, I welcome your comments.
