Edie’s One Year Death Unveiling

Today marks Edie’s one year death anniversary.  Of course, Edie is never far from my thoughts as I have found myself over the last several days often going back in time and memory.

Edie’s One Year Since Passing

In view of today being one year ago that Edie was taken off life support, she is forever frozen in my mind.  Furthermore, it is hard for a day to go by without me remembering Edie’s twinkling blue eyes and bright smile.  Since today marks the one year anniversary of Edie’s passing I’ve experienced different emotions throughout the last year.  When there is a family death I have learnt it sometimes pulls a family apart.

The first few months after Edie’s death were some of the hardest days of my life.  Although a family usually pulls together, that was not the case with my immediate family.  Young boys will grow up without their Mother and Father.  Luckily for the boys, they live with my Sister and Brother-in-law.  Both my Husband and I try to spend as much time as we can with the Boys.

Although the holidays were tough to get through last year, this year will be the same.  For the second year in a row, my Sister and I will be at our own homes.

Coping with Grief

Since no two people are cut out of the same cloth, it is important to respect each person’s journey from grief.  In the first place, grief involves several stages.  Although each person gets through grief in a different order, it is important to respect their journey from bereavement.

Because of how my Sister Edie died – by the hands of her estranged husband, it makes it harder.  When someone has an illness or medical condition, you have some time to wrap your thoughts around it.  Recently my best friend lost her father-in-law without any warning.  Furthermore these deaths without any warning can throw our equilibrium off.  For this reason, the immediate death of a loved one can be tough.

Unveiling

In view of yesterday being the unveiling for my Sister Edie and today marking her one year death anniversary, should it mark the end of mourning?   After Edie died a marker was put to identify her grave site.  Although my Husband and I went to Edie’s grave site recently, the unveiling puts more meaning to her death.

Since a will was never found, my Sister has overseen all the details since Edie’s death.  Furthermore my Sister gave out a packet to all Mourners.  In this packet was a recitation and a brief eulogy.  After the reading, Edie’s two boys removed the cloth.  Also after that stones or rocks are put onto the headstone.  Jack and Nick went to the beach earlier to collect a pail of rocks.  In addition, my Husband and I bought a package of small stones to hand out to all Mourners.

Edie’s headstone was a beautiful tribute of her life.  Both my Sister and I agreed on the blue color due to it being her favorite color.

End of Mourning

Since the Jewish culture waits about a year from the death, this ironically occurred one day before Edie’s death anniversary.   Mourners were there in memory of my Sister Edie.  Usually following the unveiling the family and Mourners have something sweet.  Since my family is not close, we all went our separate ways.   My Husband with family and friends went out to lunch after leaving the cemetery.

Although something sweet is a sign to symbolize the year of mourning is over, is it?  Of course today is a hard day since it is the one year death anniversary.  It is okay to remember the person not only today, but anytime.  Remembering Edie’s strength and all the good times is helpful.

Conclusion

Although today marks Edie’s one year death anniversary, it is important to honor her memory.  You should let yourself remember the person for who they were.  Moreover I am grateful that my writing has been a gift for me.  Through words I have been able to share my thoughts and remember Edie with love.

In conclusion today may be a tough day for many, but it is important to share what we remember.  To summarize, Edie’s legacy is one of love, hope, family, peace and compassion.  Furthermore forgiving helps you flourish.

Edie’s one year death anniversary is today however she will be thought of not only today but forever in love and spirit.  With this in mind, please share your remembrance of Edie today.