Losing Edie is one of the darkest periods in my life. The phone call that I received on Monday night has forever changed my Life. Trying to keep Edie alive since Monday night has been with hope that something would change. Today at 2:30 p.m. my Sister, Edie Black has been taken off the ventilator. My family and I are trying to put back the pieces of this horrific act of violence committed against a beautiful woman.
Losing Edie
The death of Edie will be one of the most traumatic events of my life. Trying to function and piece together this horrific murder of my Baby Sister has me dealing with all sorts of emotions. Every day I would wake up in the wee hours of the morning phoning the hospital and speaking to the Nurse in the Intensive Care Unit. I was hoping to hear something positive but continued to hear depressing news that nothing had changed. I spent hours this week sitting in the Hospital squeezing Edie’s hand. Telling my Sister how much I love her. Nothing has prepared me for this day of hearing my Sister’s life has ended.
Accepting there is no “right” or “wrong” way to deal with this tragedy is something I’m trying to wrap my thoughts around. All week I’ve felt numb, disbelief and incredibly sad. Indeed, there are moments I’ve wanted to scream and am sure I’ve taken my disposition out on others. Meanwhile, talking about my feelings all week with close friends, medical professionals, family and most of all my Husband has been helpful. A lot of times this past week, I’ve had difficulty sleeping and eating. Also, my writing and reading has taken the edge off. In addition, I have found myself waking up in the wee hours of the morning multiple times all week. Of course, I have no appetite and when trying to read a magazine or book, I find myself reading the same page 10 times as my concentration is off.
Losing Edie will forever be with me. Of course, I will honor and cherish her beautiful smile, spirit and love each and every day. Having a beautiful relationship with my Sister was like having a best friend and soul mate for life.
Funeral Plans
Funeral plans are in the works for beginning of the week. My Sister Heidi, myself and my Dad will meet with the Funeral Director and Rabbi tomorrow.
In conclusion, I will continue to share my thoughts of losing Edie and dedicate my blog post to her in the upcoming days.
Lynne,
There’s no words that will make this process any easier. Just know we are thinking of you and your family right now. If there is anything I can do please let me know.
Jessica, Thanks for your support throughout this horrific tragedy.
Lynne, Joe and family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Such a tragedy. Our deepest sympathy and prayers. Thinking of you all at such a difficult time.
Craig & Beth
Thank you for your note of sympathy.
Dear Lynne and family,
Words can not express my condolences at the loss of your sister, a beautiful woman so pure of heart. I will miss her terribly, as she always made me light up when I saw her walking toward me with that smile and crinkle in her eyes and nose when she smiled. I am so sorry.
Hi Jennifer, Thank you for your kind note about Edie. This is a horrific tragedy and I’m devastated. Writing about Edie is helping me express my emotions and I will continue to dedicate posts to Edie this entire upcoming week.
Kind regards,
Lynne
So very, very sorry for your loss. At MGH we are all devastated by this tragedy. I hope that the thoughts and prayers from so many of us who knew Edie and her beautiful smile will comfort you and your family during this terrible time.
Thank you for letting me know you and your colleague’s are saddened as I’m still waiting to wake up from this nightmare. Writing about Edie is helping me put my emotions on paper.
Lynne , Beth and I send our deepest sympathy to you and your family in the sad ,sad time.At a loss for words , knowing there are none to ease such pain,our thoughts and prayers are with you…….God Bless you all !
Thanks Craig and Beth for your note of sympathy.
So sorry of your sister’s loss..RIP Edie
Thank you Stephanie for your support as it is much appreciated during this tragic time in my Families lives.
So sorry for your loss to you and your family, I wish you and Joe and your family the very best, in grieving, in this very difficult time!
Hi Greg, Joe and I appreciate your support as this has been a horrible time in my families lives.
Kind regards,
Lynne
Lynne so sorry for your loss Edie will truly be missed thinking of all of you during this difficult time xo
Thank you Denise for your support and comment. Funeral is Tuesday at 11:30 a.m. Today was a difficult day meeting with the Rabbi and Funeral Home.
To you, Lynne, Joe, Heidi, the children, and all family and friends of Edie, my deepest sympathy:(
Very disturbing and so upset that this has happened to one of the most beautiful, kindest person, your sister Edie. Please keep us informed when we will see you, Sharon , Shirley, Doreen-we are here for u all.
Hi Sharon, Thank you for your support and being a great friend. Today was a difficult day as Heidi, myself and my Dad met with the Rabbi and than went to Stanetsky Funeral Home to go over details. This entire week has been a bad nightmare. Edie didn’t deserve this and she will forever be part of all our lives. Funeral is scheduled for Tuesday at 11:30 a.m.
Ty for the update. I’m trying to respect your privacy at this difficult time, but want to come over and give you a big hug( glad u have wonderful Joe.). So let me know if you need anything!
Much appreciated. Rose and Mino were over last night and they brought us dinner. Cooking isn’t an option for me right now as I barely have any appetite. I have to pick out an outfit for Edie for tomorrow to be buried in and go back to the Funeral Home. Today will be another difficult day for myself and my family as Heidi heads to the Medical Examiner to identify the body and face. I will try and phone you later today. Again, thank you for your friendship and support.
Lynne , I can’t even begin to feel the pain you are going through……my thoughts and prayers are with you
And your family.
Xo, Joy
Thank you Joy for your note – it has been a tragedy for my family as we try and put the pieces together and function especially in light of Edie leaving behind 2 young boys – age 6 and 8.
Lynne, I am so sorry. I saw this post and felt terrible for you and your family. I am thinking of you and sending you healing thoughts.
Hi Rachel, Thank you for your note of sympathy. Yesterday was a sad day as it was the funeral, burial and sitting shiver and sitting shiver again today at my Home from 2 – 5. I’m amazed by the support from family, friends, former Employee’s of mine and Business Colleague’s. This has been a horrific tragedy and everyday I hope to wake up from this nightmare.
Kind regards,
Lynne
Lynne, we are Bernd and Daniela from Freiburg, Germany. We are still devastated about the horrible news we received Wednesday last week and utterly sad that the tiny hope for a miracle for Edie that we were clinging on since has been in vain. Our thoughts are with Nick & Jack, and Melvin who we had in our house not too long ago, and we vividly remember the happier days of the wedding when we had the honor of meeting the entire family, in particular you and Heidi. And only last year the boys and our children were playing soccer with Bernd, while Daniela was talking to Edie about their shared dream of a writer’s career. It’s unbelievable. There are no words to express how sorry we are. The only wish we have is that in many years’ time the boys will be able to say that they had a good life despite what happened.
Hi Bernd and Daniela, Thank you for your note as my Family is beyond devastated and don’t understand how this horrible tragedy occurred – we don’t understand and are having difficulty as trying to take it day by day. My beautiful Sister’s life was taken too young and the way it happened was gruesome. Heidi has the boys with her and they were here today and they are wonderful kids. Edie’s book last year was published and a friend of hers and myself plan to finish the second book and dedicate it to Edie. I will let you know when it is available. I hope if you visit the State you will be able to visit the Boys. Again, thank you for your note.
Kind regards,
Lynne
Lynne,
I wish that I can strip you and your family from this horrific nightmare you are living. I remember you speaking often about your sister Edie and I know what a special bond you had. Please know that you are in my prayers. I’m asking God to comfort you and your family through this rough time. I’m praying that the good Lord grant you strength so that you can be there for the boys. They need you. If it’s any consolation, know that you now have an angel with you at ALL times and that angel is Edie.
With the deepest of condolences,
Yoli
Yoli, Thank you for your thoughtful message. This has been a horrible nightmare and I keep wishing I could turn back the clock. I loved what you wrote about the Angel as the night of the shiver, one of my friends brought me over to a window to show me a bright moon with twinkling stars and wanted me to find comfort in that – like your Angel comment. The thoughtfulness of so many people have been wonderful and appreciated and I’m going to need the support of family and friends over this difficult time. The Boys were at my House yesterday and they seem to be okay but the older one is taking it harder as he is going to be 9 in January. My family needs all positive thoughts and thank you for sending out prayers for my family.
Lynne